누나 Pau.....

Musings of a chick

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Pooped!

I went to watch basketball on Sunday night and watched the team I was supporting go down. Not a bad margin - 11 points but I felt that there were a lot of turnovers. I think they still lacked exposure and experience. They relied to much on E and the previous national players (my cuz included) The match ended at around 1030 plus the prize giving , I got home at almost 12.

Needless to say, I was plain tuckered out on Monday.

Currently, I have been having dreams of packing my suitcase and deciding what to put in there. I think the thought of studying is on my mind constantly now and in a way I regret not rushing to get my application to the Korean embassy. Honestly, I am not prepared this year to leave my work and home but my determination to do so next year has strengthened.

Now I have to think about my proposal!

LOL! Check out the plastic noise makers! My uncle brought it to make some noise and man, we sure did!!

Monday, July 21, 2008

Bye my Arian Friend....

Chocoballs has gone off today. He is going to his uber-favourite place!

I wish him all the best over there and to keep in touch always.

I managed not to cry but I am sure we will see each other again!

Chocoballs, if you are reading this, everytime I eat sushi or anything Japanese I will be thinking of you!

Be prepared! WE are headed for a visit once you settle down. Muahahahahaha!! *evil evil laugh*

Sunday, July 20, 2008

Younger men!! Eeeeh.....

An interesting article that I came across. This was after I had a chat with a colleague whose other half is about 16 years younger than her.

What's Behind the Trend of Women Dating Younger Men?

Exploring the modern coupling phenomenon

By Tina B. Tessina, Ph.D.

There appears to be a trend of older women dating younger men, notably illustrated by celebrity couples including Demi Moore and Aston Kutcher, Halle Berry and Gabriel Aubry, and the most recent fling between 48-year-old Linda Hogan and 19-year-old Charlie Hill. According to a study of 50,000 women daters over 30, conducted by an online dating site in 2007, more than one-third of the subjects showed interest in men at least 5 years younger. And in 2003, an AARP survey revealed 34 percent of 3,500 women (between ages 40 and 69) dated men who are 10 or more years younger than themselves. This trend appears to be shocking to some people, but I don't find it so unusual.

Socially, there's a role reversal of sorts going on, women are more powerful now than ever before and may want men who are younger, and perhaps, more flexible; men who can handle it if the woman's career and lifestyle takes priority over their own. Media portrayals in "Sex and the City" (like movie characters Smith Jerrod and Samantha Jones) and "Desperate Housewives" are also showing women that dates don't have to be older. Women who have high-powered careers -- or a well-developed self-image -- are exercising more choice. Women who have been divorced and are established single moms may enjoy having a playmate, someone to have fun with; who doesn't try to control her.

Can these older woman/younger man relationships last?

In my counseling office, I have seen many relationships succeed with this kind of older woman/younger man scenario.
“The media focuses on the age difference, but what really makes or breaks the relationship is how well the couple can form a partnership that works”
Age difference is an adolescent worry: When you're a teenager, an age difference of even two or three years makes a vast difference in your experience and your outlook on life. Such a difference can interfere with communication, life goals, outlook, and relationship experience. In addition, for the young, the social reaction to such a relationship is often negative. If one partner is underage, a sexual relationship is even against the law.
But, as you get older, life experience and emotional growth help to equalize your relationship skills and resources. A 10-year or more difference in your ages makes little difference in how well you can conduct your relationship.
[Hmm.... my max is 5 years... lol]
Don't focus on an arbitrary numbers difference in your ages. If you are getting along, you have good communication and problem solving, and you love each other, that's a precious thing, and far more important than any age difference could be. If other people have a problem with it, let it be their problem.
Whether or not a relationship is healthy is not determined by age differences, but by the interaction between the partners. A 10-year difference is not too difficult to bridge, but a 20-year differences or more in age can lead to some difficulties as the partners get older. For example, the younger partner may mature and reconsider his or her choices, or an older partner may confront aging problems much sooner. But, as long as both parties are adult, and the couple has talked about their age difference and the future possibilities, I don't make judgments about their respective ages.

Dealing with the generation gap

There are healthy and unhealthy reasons to date someone of a different generation.
“One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part.”
One inappropriate motivation for dating a younger person is fear of aging on the older person's part. A younger partner isn't going to reverse the aging process or protect you from old age. Obviously, a man or woman who dates someone as young as his or her children is going to run into some social opposition, but the differences that can cause the biggest problems within the couple's relationship are differing maturity levels.
As more and more women choose younger partners for relationships, the question arises: Are women in their late 30s and early 40s likely to be successful with partners who are 10 to 15 years younger than themselves?
Success in these relationships depends on what the motivations of both people are. Some older people feel younger at heart than their contemporaries and like to date people who are as active as they are. Chronological age doesn't always reflect either physical capability or emotional maturity. [ This is true. There are some twenty year olds who are more mature than thirty year olds; I think life experiences can mature a person.]
Sometimes an age difference creates a mentoring relationship the older person advises the younger one on life or career. This can backfire if and when the younger person decides he or she has learned enough, and wants to move on.
If you're asking: "Is it OK for me to have a partner who is much older or younger than I am?" You'll do better off if you forget about your ages and concentrate on whether the relationship works for both of you, or not. What really makes a romantic relationship succeed is the emotional connection.
Hehe... I will submit a gallery of my candidates. Please vote which one suits me.

L -R Hong Ki, Ikuta, Onew

Please vote for the fun of it.... I am bored la!! Hehe... All younger than me by the way...

Friday, July 18, 2008

Time for a change...

HANA YORI DANGO FINAL - must watch!!

(Destressing here)

Why this topic?

Well, I feel that I have reached a point in my life where nothing is happening. It feels as if I am stagnating.

I love my family and treasure my chingus but there is this feeling of 'dissatisfaction' ~ no, it's not accurately this feeling.

I can say that my 'bo-chap' stage has passed and it's not the need to settle down or procreate. More or less, I feel that I have yet to experience life 'out there'. Even though I was studying in Perth for 5 years, that stage of my life was when I was young and worried about passing the exams. I still remember the agony of failing a unit and having to beg (while crying) to my lecturer; pleading with her to let me do the unit again. If I didn't persuade her , I would have to repeat another year.

When I came back, it was worrying about finding a job. Luckily I found a job which I stuck to for a year then got the teaching position. And so they say, the rest is History.

I think that there is a big world out there and it's time to explore. This is what has cemented my determination to study next year. Why Korea? Well.. it's not to find a husband!! I have to always emphasise that not all Korean men are good looking or good. As like all humans, there are good and bad in every race.

I was worrying over the language studies but now I have left it to fate. I have to think of this as a new adventure, a learning experience or less I will scuttle back into my shell and hide there.

My chingus (mostly) are now attached or will be attached. I can see that the circle is getting smaller. I think if I remain here, I will start feeling the loneliness that comes with seeing people all paired up.

Well, I am feeling melancholy now. Better cheer myself up! Maybe I should go for some retail therapy!!

Monday, July 14, 2008

Another busy week

It has been another busy social filled week. LOL...

To recap - on Thursday it was dinner with my chingus at Gripps, Friday was dinner with my school friends and then Saturday was basketball.

On Sunday it was a birthday party at Millenium and a sorta farewell to my cousin who's off to Aberdeen to finish his Masters. I empathise with your pain! 9 hours to Aberdeen from London - by train!

A quick shoutout to my chingu who is having her birthday today! Remember that I have booked you until next year!!

Monday, July 07, 2008

My Soul...

Ahh.... I am drooling over this phone. My drooling got worse after I actually held it in my hand! Arggggghhhh... Won't someone buy this phone for me???

I got no shame.

Wednesday, July 02, 2008

What an eye-opener!

The Sexual Concerns of Korean Men
Korean men are not very considerate of their sexual partners, but they are more interested in sex. They are also more willing than their counterparts elsewhere to treat sex problems like impotence, though it seems they do not back up their words with action by seeing a doctor for accurate diagnosis of their condition and taking the right medication. Those are the findings of a Bayer HealthCare team in charge of the erectile dysfunction treatment Levitra, who conducted a two-year extensive survey of 1,000 men in Korea between 2004 and 2005.


Are Koreans “vitalsexual”?

The term “vitalsexual” was coined to refer to men over 40 who put high priority on their healthy sex life. Vitalsexual men emphasize the satisfaction of their sex partners and a romantic and natural sexual relationship and are also willing to treat erectile dysfunction. This is the ideal role model for most middle-aged customers of the pharma giant. The concept was first introduced in Europe in a report titled “Sex and the Modern Man” in 2005 and came from a survey of a total of 8,500 men in Europe and South America.

Some 50 percent of men over 40 in Australia and 63 percent of men over 40 in Taiwan were classified as vitalsexual in a survey of Asian nations, but only 26 percent of men over 40 in Korea were vitalsexual. The figure is just half the Asian or Western average and shows Korean men as relatively passive and inhibited in thinking about sex. But when it comes to their sex life, which most vitalsexual men consider high on their priority, 89 percent of Korean men answered they believed it was very important, the same percentage as among Western men, and more than the Asian average of 85 percent.

Korean men are inconsiderate

Most men both in Western and Asian nations consider the satisfaction of their partners an important factor in their sex life. The figure was slightly lower for Asian men with 91 percent than Western men with 96 percent. But in Korea the figure was 87 percent, the lowest among surveyed nations. And while 60 percent of men in Germany answered that the satisfaction of their sex partners is a crucial thing to consider, only 30 percent of men in Korea agreed.

Asian men are more willing to treat impotence than their counterparts in the West. When asked whether they would actively consider taking medication for impotence, 75 percent of vitalsexual men in the West answered yes, but the figure was 100 percent in Korea and Asia.

Stress-related sexual problems

Stress turned out to be the greatest factor affecting the sex life of vitalsexual Koreans. Some 63 percent of Western men cited stress as the greatest factor in their sex life, as did 66 percent of Asian men. But among Koreans it was 70 percent. Other factors suppressing men's sexual desire included relationship problems, health problems and concerns over the dissatisfaction their sexual partners may feel. While a far higher number of Korean men chose stress as a cause for waning sexual desire, a relatively low 31 percent said relationship problems with their spouse affect their sexual desire. Concerns over their sexual partners' dissatisfaction was the second biggest reason after stress with 52 percent, more than twice higher than for Western men. That shows a clear contradiction in Korean men's attitude toward sex: They are less considerate of their sex partners but then worry more about any resulting dissatisfaction.

Another noticeable thing is that Western men expect more effective communication with their wives, a more romantic and natural sex life and more frequent sex after their sex problems are resolved, in that order. But for Korean men, better ability to satisfy their sex partners came first, followed by better communication with their partners and longer and more frequent sex.

"The survey shows that Korean men are more self-centered in many areas in their sex life than their western counterparts," says Kang Han-goo of Bayer HealthCare. "Sex issues concern not only men but both men and women as a couple, and Korean men need to care more about their sex partners.” An official with the Levitra brand says, "Korean men are more willing to treat impotence, but they rarely try to see a doctor and consult them about their condition to treat it." He also warned of under-the-counter treatments, or inappropriate self-administered treatment.

(englishnews@chosun.com )

Tuesday, July 01, 2008

Envy..

Han Chae Young - the Korean Barbie Doll

I couldn't resist blogging about this.

It was the Daesang Awards in Seoul and some of the ladies were beeeeautiful... yeppuda!!

(Left) Han Yeh Seul - My Fantasy Couple

"Ja-jang Myun!"

I will look for the male equivalent!!